​The beauty of female friends

Once a week, I go on a long walk with a group of friends through beautiful woodland and countryside. I look forward to it, and it has the added bonus of being great exercise without feeling like exercise! I often leave these walks restored and revitalised. I wasn’t surprised to read that studies indicate that close female friendships boost confidence, happiness and general wellbeing. Spending time with friends increases our serotonin and oxytocin, bolstering mood and promoting positive feelings. Research from UCLA found that this hormonal response can spark a “tend and befriend” reaction, encouraging the protection of offspring and connection with other women.

The characteristics of true friendship

I’ve been reflecting on what defines a good friend. One of the most important qualities that stands out to me is trust. A true friend is kind and supportive and embraces me for who I am without judgment. It’s comforting to have people like that in my life. Proverbs 12:26 says: “The righteous choose their friends carefully, but the way of the wicked leads them astray.” This verse reminds us that our nearest and dearest greatly influence our spiritual journey and sense of belonging. Surrounding ourselves with those who share our values creates a supportive environment that helps us stay true to our beliefs and deepens our faith.

Reciprocity is also essential in friendship, as in a dance; both participants move with intention and the outcome is harmony. Power struggles arise if one person tries to control or lead the dance, so it’s important to maintain a healthy balance of give and take and not feel indebted. However, as humans we will inevitably sometimes make mistakes; which is why the guidance in Colossians 3:13 is so important to remember: “Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” 

I feel very blessed to have deep friendships. It’s often said that mothers are often our first friends and hold a unique place in a child’s life. Mothers can be our first teachers and protectors. Her profound influence shapes the core of a child’s sense of self, hopefully fostering a compassionate and thoughtful individual.

God of forgiveness and love, 

Please help the women who sincerely

hope to become mothers.  

May they be blessed with the miracle of new life and feel your unwavering support.

As we each navigate through the

paths you have set out for us,

Please grant us strength and comfort,

That we may support each other in

our hopes and dreams.

Heavenly Father, may your loving blessings, 

Embrace all souls – 

Young, old and yet to come.

God, grant us the freedom to cherish

and celebrate the precious gift of a

peaceful life together.

Now and forever.

Amen.