It’s Valentine’s Day! If you’re single – don’t panic.

Although for many, February 14th is just another day on the calendar, for us “lovers of love” it’s a day that can create great bliss or great angst, depending on the current status of our love-life. Don’t worry though. I’m going to give you some tips on how you can enjoy this day, and this month! And how to celebrate the season of love while you’re waiting on God to bring you the desires of your heart.

In my latest book, “You Didn’t Miss It! God’s best is worth the wait”, I share my story of waiting on God for my husband and getting married for the first time in my 50’s and then celebrating the first day of our honeymoon, yes, on Valentine’s Day! (which was totally unplanned).

Trust me, I understand and remember vividly how you can feel even “more single” and alone in February than any other month.

Trust me, I understand and remember vividly how you can feel even “more single” and alone in February than any other month.

In 2017, I decided to do something about it. I was tired of feeling depressed about my single status, so I launched something I called, “28 Days of Praying for Singles” on social media.

Each day, I posted a different prayer video to encourage those still waiting, including myself. I had no idea there were so many of us! There’s a whole group of single people out there needing to be encouraged and it felt so wonderful to connect with them and to know that I wasn’t alone in the waiting. And neither are you. 

By the way, I met my future husband just four months later. I believe the prayer seeds we sow for others can result in our own beautiful harvest.  (I’m re-launching the “28 Days of Praying for Singles” in February 2024 on my social media accounts.)

Ok. It’s time for Valentine’s Day Survival tips:

1) make up your mind right now – you’re not going to be depressed and eat all the ice cream in the freezer. Don’t be Bridget Jones! (although I love this movie) You are too fabulous to throw a pity-party. You are fearfully and wonderfully made; you are a prize to be won!  And you are, as we speak, only getting better with age!  Be the Bridget Jones who finally realizes she’s worth fighting for.

2) Put on that red dress and sparkly shoes!  Don’t wait until you start dating someone. (don’t forget the mani-pedi in bright red!)  Go to that Valentine’s Day party or out to dinner with some friends or even by yourself!  When I was single, I took many trips alone, including climbing Mt. Kilimanjaro with total strangers.

Trust me, you’re not strangers by the end of the climb. If you’re able to travel, do so! You never know who you might meet. But whether you stay closer to home or plan an adventure, celebrate being fabulously single while you’re waiting.

The truth is, although culture and tradition tell us Valentine’s Day is a day for lovers - it’s really what you make it.  This year, I encourage you to remember that God’s love is extravagant, those who wait on him will not be disappointed and the best truly is yet to come!

3) Encourage yourself and others in the Lord. Pray with those who are finding the wait even tougher than you. Waiting is hard, I know.  But if you’re waiting in faith, God will not allow you to wait one more second than is absolutely necessary to ensure that you are ready to receive the desires of your heart. His timing is best.

The truth is, although culture and tradition tell us Valentine’s Day is a day for lovers, it’s really what you make it.

This year, I encourage you to remember that God’s love is extravagant. Those who wait on him will not be disappointed and the best truly is yet to come!  

Find out more about Wendy and her work supporting single people here.