‘As Christians, our response to stories like this should be twofold: we must speak truth to the lies of the culture and extend grace to those caught in its web,’ says former porn actress Jan Coleman.
The New York Post published an article highlighting OnlyFans creator Lily Phillips’ account of her experience attempting to set a controversial record by having sex with 101 men in a single day.
The piece explores the aftermath, including Phillips breaking down emotionally, expressing regret, and reconsidering her choices. Her story has sparked widespread online debate, with critics calling out the exploitative and harmful nature of such stunts and others defending her personal agency.
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The story of Lily Phillips is profoundly tragic, offering a sobering lens into the spiritual and emotional toll of reducing human intimacy to a transaction. Her tears and feelings of disconnection reveal not only the physical toll of her actions but also the deeper void left when God’s design for sexuality is disregarded. As Christians, we are called to respond with truth, compassion, and a redemptive hope that points to the God who heals and restores.
From a biblical perspective, human sexuality is a sacred gift intended to reflect God’s covenantal love and to unite two people in a lifelong, intimate partnership
From a biblical perspective, human sexuality is a sacred gift intended to reflect God’s covenantal love and to unite two people in a lifelong, intimate partnership (Genesis 2:24, Ephesians 5:31-32). It is not merely a physical act but a deeply spiritual and emotional bond that connects individuals at their core. When intimacy is stripped of its sacred purpose and commodified, as in Phillips’ situation, it becomes not only damaging but dehumanizing. Her admission that she felt “robotic” and dissociated is a heartbreaking acknowledgment of this reality.
Phillips’ story underscores the inherent danger of a culture that prioritizes pleasure, profit, and performance over genuine relationships and human dignity. The normalization of such extreme acts through platforms like OnlyFans feeds into a broader societal lie - that self-worth can be achieved through visibility, validation, and financial success at any cost. However, as Phillips’ tears and regret demonstrate, this pursuit often leads to emptiness, not fulfillment.
Jesus’ words in Matthew 11:28-30 offer hope to those burdened by the weight of this brokenness: “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.” Phillips’ longing for meaning and connection is ultimately a longing for the rest and peace that only Christ can provide. No recognition, wealth, or achievements will fill the void God has placed in every human heart (Ecclesiastes 3:11).
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Furthermore, her experience highlights the destructive power of a culture that objectifies and exploits. The men who participated in this event and the audience that consumed it bear responsibility for perpetuating this harm. Pornography and the commodification of sex degrade not only those directly involved but also those who consume it, eroding empathy, intimacy, and the ability to see others as image-bearers of God (Genesis 1:27). When human beings are reduced to tools for gratification, everyone loses.
It is worth noting that even Phillips appears trapped by her audience’s expectations, expressing guilt for not meeting their demands.
It is worth noting that even Phillips appears trapped by her audience’s expectations, expressing guilt for not meeting their demands. This cycle of exploitation, where she is both victim and participant is emblematic of the broader industry, which thrives on addiction and the dehumanization of all parties involved. In such an environment, individuals become products, and their humanity is overshadowed by their marketability.
As Christians, our response to stories like this should be twofold: we must speak truth to the lies of the culture and extend grace to those caught in its web. The gospel offers hope for Phillips and everyone- including those who exploit or consume. The Bible teaches that no one is beyond redemption. Paul writes in 2 Corinthians 5:17, “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!” Through Christ, even the deepest wounds and regrets can be healed.
Practical steps must accompany our spiritual response. The Church has a role to play in advocating for the dignity and worth of every person, addressing the systemic issues that fuel the sex industry, and providing tangible support for those seeking to leave it. Ministries and nonprofits dedicated to rescuing and restoring victims of exploitation, such as Kainos and others, exemplify this mission. These organizations not only offer resources and counseling but also point individuals to the love and grace of Jesus.
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Finally, as individuals, we are called to examine our own hearts. Are we contributing to a culture that objectifies and exploits, whether through our consumption, attitudes, or indifference? The call to follow Christ is to live counter-culturally, valuing purity, honoring others, and standing up for those who cannot speak for themselves (Proverbs 31:8-9).
Lily Phillips’ story starkly reminds us of our world’s brokenness, but it is not the end of the story. The gospel tells us that no matter how far someone has gone, there is always a way back to the Father’s arms. Let us pray for Lily, for those trapped in similar situations, and for a culture that desperately needs the light of Christ. May we be Jesus’ hands and feet, bringing hope, healing, and restoration to a hurting world.
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