’Sex should be joyful, meaningful, and satisfying (emotionally, spiritually and physically). But, only Christ’s way allows the best sexual experience,’ says Megan Hugo.
The short answer: absolutely. The long answer: why not share the most vulnerable requests with the Creator of the universe and sex, who chose to die on the Cross for you? God and sex, within the same three words, may catalyse a constellation of reactions. Disgust? Scandalization? Absurdity? If you think of God only as a puritanical, rigid judge, eager to strike down bad thoughts, I understand why you’d dodge a racy topic with an omnipotent God.
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When Christian communities don’t directly and honestly address stirring behavioural realities, which we’ll all face as adults, it’s damaging. Jesus’ way, especially in areas replete with human pitfalls, is the best way. Christian culture should lead the discussion about how to have the most rewarding sex life, without discouraging the desire or skirting the devastating consequences of moral detours.
If you define God by Jesus’ choice on the cross, God’s perfect justice, mercy, humility, kindness, compassion, truth and love will best outline the picture of the recipient and leader on the other end of your prayer line.
Jesus wasn’t afraid to confront the most powerful political and religious leaders with the most controversial topics
Jesus wasn’t afraid to confront the most powerful political and religious leaders with the most controversial topics, and we shouldn’t be afraid to discuss and pray about them. I think most (if not, all) women want to be intimately understood and celebrated, physically and emotionally, including experiencing nearly unbearable amounts of pleasure. No one wants sexual regret, confusion, or a dull, sexual experience.
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If you follow Christ, not only do we have instructions to pray continually (1 Thessalonians 5:17), on all occasions with all kinds of requests (Ephesians 6:18), and to cast all our anxiety on him (1 Peter 5:7), Jesus came to give us life to full (John 10:10). Jesus’ offer of life to the full doesn’t stop at church steeple. Jesus came to transform our entire life, and certainly, the most impactful experiences in our lives, like sex.
If we follow Christ, Christ is king over every part of life, and his way is the most fulfilling.
If we follow Christ, Christ is king over every part of life, and his way is the most fulfilling. Fulfilling doesn’t mean easy. If we aren’t willing to humbly ask and seek God about something so innate to human desire and biology, is Christ really our leader and lord?
Seeking God’s way through vulnerable prayer is the critical first step, but honest prayer shouldn’t be the end of the conversation. Without obedience and action, human consequences are limited (not God’s power).
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Sex should be joyful, meaningful, and satisfying (emotionally, spiritually and physically). But, only Christ’s way allows the best sexual experience. Prayer and obedience work together. When you choose to invest in his better plans by: humbly seeking his way, and trusting him with your actions, your sex life will be better than expected.
Following Christ with something so personal requires radical trust, animated by obedience, in a real saviour. It isn’t easy to follow Christ, beyond church pews.
Christ’s way for sex is not for the faint of heart. It requires sacrificing convenient pleasure now for a more fulfilling pleasure later. Secular culture mocks saving the most intimate experience for marriage and ridicules sex within marriage as tedious.
Mainstream culture constantly (in music, television, movies) implores you to make the worst decisions with sex: use sex to feel good about yourself, be powerful, fit in, get to know someone, or be happy. Use sex for your own ends. Christ’s way uses sex to build a flourishing, marital relationship. Self-control, trust, consequential commitment, and intimacy are its foundations, and celebratory pleasure is the worthwhile result.
Without self-control, there isn’t trust. Without trust, there isn’t consequential commitment. Without consequential commitment, there isn’t meaningful intimacy. Without these foundations, physical pleasure is uncertain, brief and incomplete. There isn’t freedom to communicate, explore, and discover, without judgment and within the safety of trust and commitment. Without these foundations, there’s no opportunity to be fully sexually known and celebrated.
Don’t miss out on God’s best for sex. Pray about everything.
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